Ask Carolyn

  • Why’s my guy emailing his ex?

    Why’s my guy emailing his ex?

    Dear Carolyn: I just found out my boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend have been emailing every so often, prompted by my boyfriend. I told him it made me uncomfortable, and he’s stopping. So why do I feel slimy? — Washington Because the emailing was either innocent, and you seized control for no other reason than your

  • Squalor has consequences

    Squalor has consequences

    Dear Carolyn: My husband and I disagree, and I hope you can be the tie-breaker. I have two teenagers, ages 15 and 17. All their lives, I have felt they should tidy their rooms. My husband thinks they should do what they want in their own rooms. Because there are many things we don’t agree

  • Speak for yourself, OK?

    Speak for yourself, OK?

    Dear Carolyn: What if you’re in a mutually-agreed-upon, sexually monogamous relationship and you’re NOT pressuring for a commitment like moving in, engagement or marriage … but the other person thinks you are? In other words, I’m totally fine with just having a boyfriend for the foreseeable future, but he keeps insisting he knows better than

  • Finding your own voice

    Finding your own voice

    Dear Carolyn: My fiancé is currently starting a nonprofit and does not have a very high or stable income. I also work in the nonprofit field. We will not be wealthy, but I feel we will be able to have a stable life. My mother, however, has expressed her concerns about his ability to provide

  • Control freak? Who, me?

    My wife and I live by two different schools of thought. I believe that if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing right, and I put lots of time, energy and resources into things I plan. My wife believes the perfect is the enemy of the good, and will accomplish tasks in a way I

  • Way too nosy

    Way too nosy

    Way too nosy Dear Carolyn: My 13-year-old niece is tiny and has a big nose. We live in a community where a lot of teenage girls have cosmetic surgery at 16. I suggested to my brother in private that his daughter may be a candidate for this procedure. (My 19-year-old stepdaughter and my wife have