Articles by: Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax

Syndicated Advice Columnist
Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax takes your questions and tackles your problems.
  • No trust for backstabbing mother-in-law

    No trust for backstabbing mother-in-law

    Hi, Carolyn: My mother-in-law has very unkind things to say about my ex-sister-in-law, and, as a woman, I deplore how my brother-in-law handled his divorce. I am really struggling with my relationship with her. I just don’t trust her. I can’t help but feel if I were in the ex-sister-in-law’s shoes, she would be talking

  • Friend turns nasty on trip abroad

    Friend turns nasty on trip abroad

    Adapted from a recent online discussion. Hi, Carolyn: I went on a weeklong trip abroad with a friend of mine. We are 27. On the trip I saw a different side of her: She was mean and at the very least insensitive, and I can’t figure out why she acted this way toward me when

  • Friend who can’t read social cues? Be blunt.

    Friend who can’t read social cues? Be blunt.

    Dear Carolyn: I need some help setting boundaries with a friend who has a hard time reading social cues. She regularly interrupts and talks over me, dominates conversation with stories about people I’ve never met, continues texting after I say I’m going to bed, and overstays her welcome when she visits. For example, I say

  • Chronically ill, struggling to socialize

    Chronically ill, struggling to socialize

    Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I am chronically ill but work full time and am literally able to do little else other than work and take care of my home. Socializing is exhausting for me, doing it out of the house more so, and even when it is wholly limited to weekends,

  • Husband can’t control his anti-racism rage

    Husband can’t control his anti-racism rage

    Hi, Carolyn: Please help! My husband fights with everyone online and he can’t or won’t stop himself. These are charged times, we all know. My husband spends hours arguing with strangers in the comments sections of articles and friends’ posts on Facebook. He frequently diverges from the topic at hand and the threads spiral into

  • Husband opts out of Valentine’s Day

    Husband opts out of Valentine’s Day

    Adapted from a recent online discussion.   Dear Carolyn: Valentine’s Day is coming and once again my husband will do nothing for me. He said, after we got married four years ago, he shouldn’t “have to” anymore. This was a huge shock since, when we were dating and engaged, he would take me out to

  • Dealing with “Debbie Upper”

    Dealing with “Debbie Upper”

    Adapted from a recent online discussion.   Dear Carolyn: I have a dear friend who won’t allow anyone to say anything bad about ANYONE. My youngest son was trying to make a point about one of his teachers, who treated him like dirt — we as parents got involved as well because it was concerning